Why is it that we don't do this more often? Or maybe we do...

About date nights, middle-of-the-week dinners out, and spontaneity

Last week we decided to go out for dinner... on a Tuesday night!

We had a gift card to use and very little time to enjoy the last ounces of complete freedom and flexibility that comes with a childless life. So we went for it.

It was nice, it was tasty, and most importantly, it was fun. It was one of those nights that made me wonder and question social norms. Why is it that people prioritise going out during the weekend? Why is it that we don't do this more often?

The answer to my first question is straightforward, I know, but also heavily depends on where in the world you are, as there are plenty of places out there where weeknights are as crowded as, or more crowded than, weekends over here.

For my second question, I believe the answer is twofold, but I'm not sure if they exclude each other. One is simply conforming to the norms and never questioning them, or even taking the time to do so. Two is letting yourself get wrapped up in those beliefs without even noticing it. It was the latter for me.

We don't do it very often (and there are a few reasons why, but that's another story); however, by our own standards, this year we have done it a fair number of times, and that's what really matters.

A healthy mix of spontaneity and intention.

Spontaneity when, despite being very organised and having a plan, we listen to ourselves and simply decide to throw those plans away and go for a pizza instead, or simply order one, which in that moment feels like the ultimate comfort.

Intention of not letting ourselves be victims of our own rigour and structure; remembering it is ok to break the routine here and there, to go out, have dinner, walk around and enjoy the light or dark of the night, all without succumbing to the feeling of the rushed necessity of having to head back because another day awaits tomorrow.

This is one of our last dinner dates as a couple, before we become a trio, a family. The final countdown has begun; the clock is ticking, as days progress, before our everydays become about someone else. The future is no longer just about two. "About us" is now a more ample term that, although plural, leans more heavily towards him than towards us.

All this gives the moment enough gravitas and importance to be spontaneous and intentional; to remember not to get wrapped up in the beliefs of this new present. To enjoy the moment, this one and the ones after, because one is not better than the other; they simply are different.

But most importantly, to savour it, literally and figuratively. To enjoy it, until we look back at it as a memory.

🗺️ Place: Glasgow, Scotland
📍 Location: Corner Shop
📅 Date taken: 09 June 2026
📷 Camera: Samsung S25